Dear Anonymous: Grow a Pair

Today, I found THIS little doozy of a comment on a blog from like, a month and a half ago. Please, read, and then we will discuss:

Wow, do you all realize how hypocritical you're being? Honestly. I don't have kids, so maybe it's easier for me to be objective about this, but think through these things people.

"God wouldn't have invented the epidural if he didn't want me to get one." Do I even need to comment on this? Come on. God made people. People made epidurals. God made people that are sociopaths. Does that mean He wanted that man to kill the kid next door? No. He wants us to make our own decisions, while consulting Him. Did you consult Him about the epidural? If you really strove to know if God wanted you to have one, great, but does that mean He wants everyone to have one? No. People get to make their own decisions, including the people who didn't get an epidural.

"in a hospital (where a baby SHOULD be born!)...psycos."

"Another, psyco." "It is OK that people do things differently" First of all, learn to spell. Second of all, do you even SEE what it is you're writing? If you really believed it was OK for people to do things differently wouldn't you not be calling them psychos? You didn't say, "They were yelling at me that I was killing my child by not vaccinating them," that might be considered a psycho. You called anyone who doesn't vaccinate a psycho. If you don't want other people to tell you what to do with your child do you have the right to tell them what to do with theirs?

If you found out a good friend had her baby at home would you think she was a psycho, even if she didn't push it on you and you heard from someone else? If you found out a good friend didn't vaccinate her 4 year old, would you call her crazy and refuse to respect her decision?

It doesn't sound like most of you are respecting people's "crazy habits." So please don't profess to be some kind of a tolerant saint.

"I think it's great when people have there own opinions and then don't try to convince others that they have they only correct way of doing things." No, you think it's great when people have YOUR opinion.

You say it's great that people researched these things out. Does that mean you didn't? I understand that these things aren't for everyone, or even the majority, but does that make them wrong? Does that make them right?

"judgmental people tick me off." So....you're not being judgmental then?

Many of you are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I'm sure many of you have 'bible-bashed' before. You strongly believe in your religion and want to share it with others. People who believe in not circumcising or not having an epidural or not vaccinating or whatever don't want you to choose their way because they're narcissistic. They truly believe what they're doing is right and would feel guilty if they didn't at least share what they believe (like you with your religion). Many of them just can't control their emotions as we all know things pertaining to birth and raising children are highly emotional and personal.

One more thing, there ARE people who read this blog that do many of the things you are all blaspheming. Do you not care about the feelings of your friends? Just because we have the internet now people think they can let loose and say whatever they want and it doesn't matter because it's not face to face. Would you say these things to someones face? If not, save it for a real journal. If you have a hard time writing in a real journal, type it up.

Yes, anonymous, I told you to grow a pair. If you don't have the guts to tell me these things to my face, then don't waste my time. Congrats, you are the first lame "grumpy comment" I've ever received on my blog.

I do believe, that many of the things you ranted at me about are from comments made about this post. Don't come at me because of it- we are all entitled to our own opinions, and because some were stated in a way that you don't agree with, don't kill the messenger....

HOWEVER, there were a few things that you wrote in direct correspondence to my own words, and I will respond to those. You obviously know very little about me. You started off by stating that you don't have kids of your own. Exactly. Pipe down for a few years until you can be more objective about some of these things. I clearly stated that things didn't go how I thought they would, and this is my keeping record of some of the experiences I've had. Yeah, I did pray to Him about my entire labor, namely that I would have a healthy one, and neither I or my baby would be at serious risk for death. Obviously, that wasn't in His plan. Am I bitter? Not even a little- I learned so much, about myself, my Father in Heaven, and the sanctity of life.

I don't know who you are, but I will say this much: if we are friends, and you had the audacity to challenge me for my views on home birth, we are done. How dare you tell me that my feelings on these topics aren't well thought out, after what my little family has been through. I say I don't judge, well, sometimes I do. I'm judging you, for being a close-minded little prick. Who do you think you are to get on someone's case for doing the best they could in the horrific situation they were placed in. Life needs to give you a slice of humble pie, little buddy, because I'm positive you wouldn't be so aghast that I've formed very strong opinions after the year we've had. I live with proof of a living miracle, and I will do anything to protect it. Telling me to not blog my feelings? Bite me.

**PS- Those spelling mistakes were not mine. Don't be messing with my spelling, yo.