What's the deal with C-Sections?? It seems like there are many people who subscribe to the school of thought that if you had to get your baby sliced out, it was horrible, terrible, and God must not love you. Yes, you have been cut in half, which is a pain, but I can tell you one thing- I didn't hold the fear of all things holy every time I had to pee after a C-Section. I'm ok with that.
Who of you reads C-Jane? If you do, then you might remember this. She had struggled with infertility for years, and finally had her baby boy, "The Chief", a month or so ago. I so vividly remember one of her blogging friends making a comment (in reference to the fact that she ended up NOT being able to have a home birth after all...ughhh...)
"In my opinion, as long as it's not a c-section, it's a huge success. Glad everything went well. "
Double UGggggghhhhhh. Seriously? Is it because I come from a family with a sister who has had 3 C-Sections that I don't think it's that big of a deal? Folks...it's not. I'm sorry, but I think the thought of having my area TORN up to my ears is a lot scarier than being cut open and then sewed up again.
I'm just sayin'.
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
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I think that is totally insensitive and lame for that girl to say that "success" statement. However, my mom had a c-section with her first and my sister and one sister-in-law had c-sections with their first kids, but they did everything they could to have the next ones safely vaginally. Heck, my twin and I were 15 lbs together. When you already have 3 small kids though it would probably be harder to handle them plus two babies with a c-section because it limits movement so much. I babysat for someone who had 5 c-sections (they lost the 1st baby), and I never thought twice about it. While lots of people are stupid about their remarks, it really is more dangerous (about 3x more likely to have severe complications and die). It is NOT a failure though. Obviously. A healthy baby is not failing. I remember the first time I saw my nephew through the window after the c-section and it didn't make me fall in-love with him any less. He was perfect in every way, as was his sister (a VBAC, no tearing). They were both successes.
c-section babies are prettier.
No squishing through the vajayjay. That's the only reason I do mine via c-section. I want pretty babies.
My little sister had both her babies C-sections...they only thing "unsuccessful" about it was I was all set to be in the delivery room with her with the first. The emergency c-section nixed that. I've heard recovery is a little harder...but you're right--stitches in your "v" are no picnic either!
people have silly ideas. Any baby is a success!
I guess for me, I am terrified of hospitals and doctors anyways... just never have had a good experience. The thought of a major surgery in combination with a huge life change/newborn, I am scared that it would be so much harder to deal with. But those are just *my* fears holding *me* back from a csection. I don't see the problem if other people are going to have them- I honestly envy a woman who goes into the hospital not scared of what could happen, and what control and choices she does not have. I wish I could have that.
But instead, I have pretty much interviewed 2 nurses at the hospital we will have the baby at, grilled my doctor, and also talked to the pediatrician about all the things I am anxious about. The more I discuss my worries with them, the less worried I become.
I guess a c just completely terrifies me... but what matters anyway is that the baby gets here safely and that both mom and baby are healthy too. Really- it's just one day out of so many to come. What people want to do with their bodies is completely up to them- and nobody else should ever think their opinion matters in the grand scheme of things.
My sisters & I have all had c-sections. I think they suck, but I don't feel like I lost a "beautiful" chance at giving birth.
I agree with Heather...much cuter babies!!
I don't care how the baby gets out, just get it OUT! Yeah, my c-section friends never have to worry about nasty hemerrhoids (sp?) that will NEVER completely go away from hours of pushing. But I guess those are markings of a "successful" labor- HA. I should be proud but really I am just jealous of c-section ladies.
Too much information?
Thanks for making one of my biggest concerns about having twins seem so much easier. Honestly I'm still nervous, but I know it will all work out.
Hope you and the boys are doing well.
Yeah, the tear and stitches were no fun either. Labor and Delivery is no picnic no matter how you look at it. Just get the baby out.
Although I hope to never have a c-section, (I don't like how it looks when they "rip" the baby out of the mom's stomach or the dissection around the bladder) c-sections are no failure. I just think we're lucky to have an alternative for multiples or when things don't go as planned.
I'm on board with you Anne. C-sections can save lives.
In other news. Mike is getting married tomorrow. Dead. Serious.
Also, where did you get that white dress? I love it, love it, love it.
Just the thought of going through labor makes me think that a C-section might not be so bad in the next week & a half. I am really tired & don't want to push :)Good thing Polly practically fell out last time so I have no complaints either way, as long as he gets here safe & sound!
My favorite is when people talk about giving birth the "natural way" as if squeezing a kid through your vag without meds is more natural than getting the epidural. Using tons of pain medication makes my births less natural? I don't think so.
Oh i totally agree Anne. I tore all the way with Nicci (tmi?) and next time (IF there is a next time) I want to sign up for a c-section. My mom had all 4 of her kids C-section and we're all fine & dandy, so sign me UP!
SO WHEN are you guys coming to fabulous las vegas?!
You still have a baby no matter how it was born, that's all that matters.
Beg to differ on C-Section Babies being cuter Heather and AnneMarie, MY babies are proof!
AMEN!!! I had an unplanned c-section and it was the best thing ever. The idea of a vaginal birth is not pleasant to me anymore. I feel my birth was a success so she can shove it. I have no problems with others having vaginal births but I don't think you're better if you do.
Anne, your blog is always so interesting.
And duh! on the fact that any way a baby gets here is a success.
Thanks for always stirring it up for us out here in blogland! =)
I agree with you. Both of my babies have been C-sections and I think even if I had a choice now I probably would just go with a C-section from now on.
I had 2 vaginal deliveries and they were great. I didn't hurt when I peed(I didn't even know it did for some people) and my "area" wasn't ripped up. While I think delivering either way is fine, I don't think one is necessarily better than the other. I had such good experiences that I wouldn't want to do it any other way, but if I do have to have a c-section one day, I think I'll survive.
Hi! I'm not a regular reader of your blog, but I happened across this post and wanted to add my 2 cents to the discussion. On the one hand I'm thankful that C-sections are so safe and so available for emergency situations, but on the other hand I have issues with planned C-sections. When I was born (1970) the C-section rate was 5%, and now it is closer to 30%. There are good data supporting the fact that over 90% of births are uncomplicated and do not require medical intervention, and 30 countries in the world are doing better than us in terms of birthing success (meaning safety of mother and baby). I suggest people DO watch "The Business of Being Born" or read Jennifer Block's book "Pushed: The painful truth about childbirth and modern maternity care." There really is so much at stake--this is not a decision to be made lightly.
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